Sorry I have NOT forgotten, life got in the way. I will have an update when I am finished with this challenge
Day 29-Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
I could swear I answered this question in a different form earlier...am I having deja vu?
Guess I'll have to come up with a different answer this time ;-)
So another thing I would change about myself is how reactive I am. It's something I have been thinking about a lot lately. Mostly because it has been happening more and more. I have always been this way, but it tends to rear it's ugly head more often when I am stressed, and I have had my share of stress as of late, as much as I would like to deny it.
I assume things before I ask questions and I react based on my assumptions. This more often than not gets me in trouble, and causes conflict with those I love most. I don't usually do it directly as much with people I don't know because I don't like conflict, and yet I find that I create most of the conflict I have in my life by being reactive instead of proactive.
I need to learn to take a few breaths and a step back from the situation BEFORE I make any judgments. I need to ask questions FIRST and make sure I know all the details. I have learned from experience that when I do this I have a MUCH better response from people and I am able to not only better control my reaction and that in turn changes the way the other person reacts to me. It makes for a calmer, more productive conversation and a faster resolution.
Now if I can just figure out how to take the reaction trigger out and replace it with a proactive trigger.....in the mean time I will be doing a lot of deep breathing and stepping back and probably a fair amount of biting my tongue until I have better control. The good news is practice makes perfect, and I have the rest of my life to practice. Feel free to remind me to practice if you find me being reactive. A friendly reminder never hurts.